Recently a client asked me how to make small talk.
He found it very difficult in his first language and definitely in English!
I told that you have to practice, practice, practice!
Statistics point to the fact that approximately 85% percent of our success in life is directly attributable to our communication skills!
Believe me, if you practice you will get better.
Every year and every decade of my own life it gets easier.
The trick is to put your attention away from yourself.
Put your attention onto something/anything in your shared situation with the other person.
That can be the weather, the slow shopping line, the news, or perhaps even something small about the other person.
So study the other person.
Look for an opening.
Start the conversation with something small and innocuous.
The moments before a conversation begins are also part of the conversation!
So feel the energy or vibration of your potential speaking partner.
If they feel angry then maybe it’s better not to talk!
Or if they feel open then you have a better chance.
Trial and error, my friend!
That means lots of trials and lots of errors!