Confidence in communication wins over competence
I have a confession to make:
I have become a teacher of German.
And my Berlin-born wife is completely shocked!
Yes it’s true.
I now have an ongoing official paid gig as a Communication Coach/ Learning Mentor for an American immigrating to Germany.
He is a raw beginner, and for sure my German grammar needs improvement.
So what is important here?
The size of my German vocabulary and the correctness of my grammar?
Or the rediscovery of his own inborn Authentic Confidence/IdentitySM, but this time in German?
If he wants better-spoken German I can refer him to many German teachers.
And for sure I will.
But I want him to feel his communication in German from the inside.
When he says, “Ich spreche Deutsch”, I want him to feel it.
Here are the results from our first four in three online calls over the last week:
- First call: five minutes only in German
- Second call: fourteen minutes only in German
- Third call: nineteen minutes only in German
- Fourth call after just eight days: 21 minutes
We did this with no, nada, zilch, null preparation in German words or grammar.
That’s right: zero preparation in the language.
Of course I have the proof with recordings.
How can that be?
School tells us we need vocabulary lists and grammar books for language-learning, right?
Everyone reading this blog is living proof, that no school technique is necessary for learning a language.
After all, everyone reading this blog learnt their first language by themselves.
In other words, to learn to communicate we already have all the readiness, all the interest, all the imagination, and all the confidence.
Whatever inside ourselves supported our first communication with our mother can also help us our communication now.
So I call this our inborn natural Authentic Confidence/Identity.
All I asked my American is to give all his attention to me.
I asked him to be relaxed and to do the best he can.
But it’s my job to do all the rest.
I need to speak clearly and slowly, and I need to tune in to him.
It’s incredibly hard and intense work, similar to running a very fast 1000 metres.
In essence I have to improvise to follow his understanding, without any preparation.
Just like a mother does with deep love for her child.
What did we talk about in our longest conversation?
We talked about a rocket going from the Earth to the moon with astronauts inside, and then the landing on the moon.
Yes, it really happened.
“I never normally experience so many ‘Ah-ha! Moments”
The best kind of communication is an open experiment, right?
I will keep you informed on our progress………..
Here’s a link to my conversation in Chinese.
No introduction, no schooling, but a real conversation.
My conversation partner Viktor from Macau, China confirmed it.
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